“Remember when you bought your first ‘Step-by-step guide to Parenting?’ It had everything you needed for all your parenting questions. You were so excited. You knew this would be the perfect reference for raising your child.”
But remember when your child got older and you thought they might have ADHD? So you went to your trusty parenting guide again and looked for the chapter on ADHD in children, only to discover there wasn’t a section on ADHD.
Well, I do. And I also remember feeling lost.
Unable to find any answers to all the questions I had about my son. All I really knew for certain was our days were becoming increasingly difficult with frustrating meltdowns, excessive energy, impulsive outbursts, aggression and what appeared to be selective hearing coupled with inattentiveness. My son was spiraling out of control.
This was uncharted territory for me. I wondered how I would be able to parent my ADHD child. He was challenging, I was woefully ill-equipped and I had no idea where to begin or what to do.
All I knew for sure was I wanted to fix the ADHD. In my mind, there had to be a solution. Kind of like when your child falls down. You clean the cut, put on a band-aid, kiss the boo-boo and everything is better again. But this was different. There wasn’t a quick fix.
ADHD felt bigger than me.
Yes, ADHD can feel big!
Really big! In fact, so BIG you can become paralyzed as a parent. And if you don’t become gripped with paralysis you can become numb or ineffective.
Not because you don’t care, but because you don’t know what to do. I get that! I’ve been right where you are and the last thing I want is for you to feel overwhelmed, ineffective, numb or paralyzed.
I can honestly say that although ADHD is a different and sometimes a complicated way to parent, it never has to be paralyzing. There are super effective ways to work alongside your child. Ways to understand the way they think and what makes them tick. Ways to help them cope and ways to guide them into adulthood.
With absolute certainty, I believe that your goal is to help your child. Just as it was for me. Because at the end of the day, we just want our child to be the best version of themselves they can be.
That can happen, but they need you.
With all the variables that come with raising an ADHD child, one thing is an absolute — much of what will make a difference for your child will begin with you. I know that sounds trite, telling you that you will make the difference for your child, but it is the absolute truth! You can be the constant your child needs in their life. The source of light that never fades and the warrior that stands at the gate.
You can be the one that moves the needle. The one that brings about the change. That’s you!
Just think of the difference you could make for your child if you put into practice methods that help you understand and navigate ADHD. Think of the difference you could make for your child if you could take control of your child’s future by guiding them through the tough places of ADHD.
There are ways to parent ADHD. There are ways to reduce the stress and quell the overwhelm of ADHD. And, there are ways to break down the BIG of ADHD and make it manageable.
So, how do you begin to make a difference for your ADHD child? You start small. Bite size pieces of information. Nothing more than that for now.
That’s right! I’m gonna show you how to break down the big of ADHD, starting with the following…
6 Ways You Can Help Your ADHD Child, Today!
Each tip is intended to be an introduction. These easy to apply info-bites will shed light on simple ways you can approach the challenges of raising an ADHD child. Consider these a jumpstart to identifying your child’s needs.
REMIND YOURSELF DAILY:
That your child needs you to help them manage their ADHD. They can’t do it alone. Your child grapples every day with impulsivity, organization, focus, and hyperactivity. An ADHD child needs your positive guidance to gently assist them throughout their day. There is no truer statement than this — “You are the one that will create the greatest positive change in your child’s life.” They need you!
Your child will need you to remain calm when dealing with them. By remaining calm, you’ll be the example your child needs. Keeping a clear head and using a calm tone will help you work through challenging moments. The positive example you project will impact your ADHD child and benefit them for a lifetime.
RECOGNIZE THE STRUGGLE:
For your child, ADHD is a daily struggle. Imagine what it’s like to be easily distracted and lack the ability to focus and stay on task. Or to tussle with high energy and impulsivity. Your child knows what is expected of them. Yet they grapple internally when they can’t find a way to do what is asked of them. This can lead to frustration—for both of you. They need your understanding and patience to help them work through those frustrating aspects of their ADHD.
ROUTINE & CONSISTENCY:
These are your two greatest assets. An ADHD child thrives best in an environment with a schedule and predictability. Sudden changes can be unsettling and difficult to adjust to. With a foundation of routine and consistency in place, you will begin to see positive changes in your child.
Simply put the shoe on the other foot. Try to see things through your child’s eyes. Once you do, it will be easier to identify with the ADHD struggle. When you begin to understand how your child’s mind works, you’ll discover new and constructive ways to work with your child. In addition, you’ll find the grace needed to work successfully with your child.
You are a GREAT parent! Remind yourself of this…
Having what you need to be the best you can be.
Raising an ADHD child is easier when you have the encouragement and resources you need. If that’s what you’re looking for then take a minute and simply click on any of the highlighted links above for more detailed information and a better understanding of each tip.
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